What are the five love languages?
1. Words of Affirmation: Expressing your love through a verbal compliment. Speaking to someone with words of appreciation. Showing affection through your words. For example, “I love the way those pants make your butt look.”
2. Quality Time: Sitting in the quiet without any distractions and having a simple conversation with the one you love. That means turning the tv off and setting the phones to the side. You spouse wants your undivided attention.
3. Receiving Gifts: It doesn’t have to be the most expensive or the biggest gift ever. Something as simple as a note that says “I love you” on it will do. A visual gift that says “She was thinking of me” or “He remembered.” Giving gifts is symbolic of showing affection.
4. Acts of Service: Instead of using words to show your love and affection, you are showing your love and affection through your actions. This goes to say that “actions speak louder than words.” For example; doing the dishes, folding the laundry, vacuuming, getting the car washed, or cooking breakfast.
5. Physical Touch: This can be something as simple as holding hands, but it can also be kissing or having sex. Without physical touch, your spouse may feel unloved. Sometimes all it takes is brushing their hand as you walk by them.
Why are they important?
Understanding your love language is important to your relationship with your spouse. I believe that communication is key to having a healthy relationship. Each love language is a form of communication that gives us insight to our spouses wants and needs. Its like reading your spouses mind, knowing what they are thinking. It reminds me of the movie “What Women Want” how he is able to know what every woman is thinking and be able to anticipate their wants and needs to be able to fulfill those wants and needs. If you know your spouses love language then you can find out what makes them feel loved and wanted. It can be a powerful turning point in your relationship.
How we apply them<3
Today my husband and I were having a conversation about affection. I decided to look up the five love languages and figure out what my husband and I both are so we can work on the languages we don’t do enough of. He was telling me how I don’t show him as much affection as he needs or wants. He is always hugging, kissing, and loving on me, and expects me to do the same. My husband is a very affectionate person, his love language is definitely physical touch. Even when I do show him affection, its not enough! Since I know that my husband has the love language of physical touch, I know I must make that my main focus. It doesn’t mean I stop the other love languages, I continue to do all of them, but if I know that physical touch is what he wants then that is what I give him. He always says to me “babe its the little things.” It really is. It doesn’t take much to make your spouse happy especially if you know what they want.
I knew what kind of love language my husband had but I wasn’t sure about me. After reading about each love language I determined that I have the words of affirmation love language and also acts of service. I love when my husband tells me I look good or gives me praise for doing a good job on something or just simply telling me “I love you” or “I miss you. He is pretty good at doing that. I wish he would do more acts of service. I know I am a stay at home mom and it is my responsibility to do house work like dishes, laundry, cleaning and cooking and taking care of the kids, but sometimes its nice when I am surprised with no dishes in the sink or the laundry is all folded or even his clothes on picked up off the floor. I say to him “its the little things babe.” It really is. =]
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